I believe that the very purpose of our life is to seek happiness. That is clear. Whether one believes in religion or not, whether one believes in this religion or that religion, we all are seeking something better in life. So, I think, the very motion of our life is towards happiness… – Dalai Lama
Happiness is all the rage right now. It’s in a lot of blog tags I read. Now we live in an unhappy world – bad news, natural destruction and devastation, human cruelty and suffering, sad, bad and mad faces. Happiness is a tall order; I see it as an obligation.
It’s a challenge to be happy. If someone says they are happy, part of me is instantly suspicious. I always think, “What are you hiding? Are you in denial? What did you have for breakfast? When will your world crash down?” I’m not perpetually unhappy, but just in a state of content coasting. I think that’s okay for me and I’ve reconciled myself to this. I don’t have to be happy. I’m okay to move about my world (mostly) accepting that things are of my own creation and that this is how I have set things up to be. To be honest, I don’t know what would make me happier most of the time.
I read Gretchen Rubin’s book “The happiness project.” Actually, this is a lie. I took it out from the Library, got excited about it, meant to read it, and then it was overdue. I’ve signed up for her newsletter now. I’m glad she is doing this. It’s good she’s sharing this. I read the inspirational messages and they make me smile a little more. I guess that’s what happy is. A little bit more of a smile than before.
I measure a lot and forget that my own successes are happiness. We can be so relieved and excited that we have achieved our goal, and just as quickly compare it to someone else. We deflate ourselves in that instant. We need more of our helium than air to keep us afloat.
Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck. – Dalai Lama
I think sometimes simplicity is happiness. I think sometimes human companionship is happiness. Some people will make you happier than others, and that’s complicated in its own way. It’s like giving a person a gift: some people will accept a package as is, while others will be more skeptical. These people will want more information, questioning motives or the value of its worth. I think we need to be happy, soul-o, and we grow more with others.
Happiness is also an effort of choice. Our results are based on how we affect our environment and how we manage those interactions, our self-reflection. If we are spending our energy being angry and shaking our fist at the sky, why not instead put that same effort into something else? Wouldn’t that motion towards happiness be easier on those around us?
Are we happiest at our most basic? How do human relationships make us happy? What makes you happy?