The world as we have created it is a process of our thinking. It cannot be changed without changing our thinking.
― Albert Einstein
Change can bring discomfort. We tend to stay paralyzed in situations, comfortably numb. It may not be pleasant, but we know how it works and what to expect and we have reasons (excuses) for it all.
Why don’t we change? We fear change because of the discomfort that we feel may come with it, we fear Fear – the possibility of pain in the future. We feel change may mean giving something up, and we are not sure if we can handle the success that change can bring.
You have to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Fear is ego-driven and we make our Ego our friend as avoidance. We can identify and label the emotions and look at what’s beneath them. We can feel fear in a situation, beneath this may be anger, beneath this may be sadness. You can accept the emotions you usually avoid to embrace the parts of you that have felt rejected.
It doesn’t matter where the anger/hurt/sadness came from; we are feeling an emotion and we have labelled it as part of what we are now experiencing. Often the immediate situation is only a scenario in our lives to show us these emotions and to offer us a chance to change.
Never be afraid to try something new. Remember, amateurs built the ark, professionals built the Titanic.
You have to get comfortable with being physically uncomfortable as well. When we run fast(er) we can feel fear, as our legs may hurt and it’s getting harder to breathe and our pace is beyond what we are used to. You have to push yourself past the pain in your legs and lungs as you run. It is not normal to hurt and we want to slow down, every part of us is telling us to slow down!
But here again is the Fear, and it is our mind telling us these things. We can allow our body some pain, we can work through and past this. We can look ahead and keep our head up and breathe and go a little bit faster for a little bit longer.
Who would we be if we were willing to change?